Safety Planning for Domestic Violence Survivors
Realize that you are not alone, we are here to help, and there is hope.
Survivors of domestic violence often face complex and dangerous situations. Abusive partners may use isolation, control, and intimidation to maintain power. Safety planning can help reduce risks and prepare for emergencies.
Every survivor’s situation is different—these tips offer general guidance to consider when planning for your safety. Additional tips are included for pet owners and LGBTQIA+ individuals, who may face unique challenges when accessing support and services.
General Safety Planning Tips
Make a Safety Plan
- Identify patterns or triggers of abuse in your situation and, when possible, avoid them.
- If a confrontation escalates, try to move away from the kitchen or other areas where weapons may be present.
- Choose and communicate a safe space in your home for children to go during altercations.
- Keep a go-bag in a secure, hidden place with essentials like clothing, cash, phone numbers, ID, and important documents.
- Keep your phone charged and within reach at all times.
Stay Connected
- Set up regular check-ins with trusted friends or family via calls, texts, or video chats.
- Try to communicate when the abuser is away or when you’re outside the home, such as on a walk.
- Use code words to discreetly signal to others if you’re in danger or need emergency help.
Practice Self-Care
- Engage in calming and grounding activities such as exercise, reading, music, or meditation.
- Encourage family members to do the same to help reduce household stress.
- Maintain consistent routines for children to provide a sense of safety and stability.
Get Help – You’re Not Alone
Advocates are available 24/7 to help you make a personalized safety plan or assist with emergency needs:
NYC Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-621-HOPE (4673)
National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224
Text: LOVEIS to 22522
Tips for Pet Owners
- Use pet care (like walks or vet visits) as an opportunity to safely contact support services.
- Include pet supplies in your go-bag—such as food, medication, and vet records.
- Identify someone you trust who could temporarily care for your pet in an emergency.
- Gather all necessary paperwork (e.g., vaccinations, registrations) to go with your pet if you need to leave quickly.
- Some food banks and community programs may offer pet food and supplies—call local resources to find support.
Tips for LGBTQIA+ Identified Survivors
- You have the right to access domestic violence shelter and services, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation. Discrimination is not permitted.
- If it’s safe, stay connected with affirming individuals in your life—friends, chosen family, or support networks.
- If your partner uses your identity as part of the abuse (e.g., misgendering or restricting gender-affirming items), connect with people who validate and support you.
- If you may need to leave quickly, try to keep important items with you: ID, medications, hormones, name change documents, and some cash.
You Are Not Alone
There is help. There is hope. Whether you’re planning for safety, seeking shelter, or simply need to talk, support is available. We’re here for you.